“The people who talk behind your back are destined to stay there. Behind your back. Never to catch up.”
– Beauty and the Beast Novelization by Elizabeth Rudnick
– Maurice is talking to Belle about a saying her mother used to say.
After recently finishing this book, I noticed this quote and it struck a chord in me. I believe the meaning is to not worry about what others may say behind your back and even though it may happen, that should not prevent you from being who you truly are.
Truth is, they may be making unkind comments because they may envy a quality that you have, and they cannot understand how to obtain that quality.
Here are just some ways how this quote can be applied:
What would cause people to behind each other’s back?
- Hobbies, interests, after-school activities that are unique
- Who students spend time with
- Clothes that are worn
- Games/Electronics that are owned or lack thereof
- At work, judgment can be found as well
- Clothing choices
- Certain activities, interests, and hobbies
- How one spends time outside of work
But, in reality, those who tease/make fun or talk behind your back because of the above reasons (or another reason) is most likely because they feel insecure about something within themselves and are trying to mask that insecurity.
Who can find this applicable?
This can be applicable to anyone who has ever felt different from others for any reason. For those who can’t seem to feel accepted for being who they truly are as a person.
The significance to me:
As many have probably experienced, in school, it was hard finding a “group” to fit into. At the public school I attended, there were your jocks, cheerleaders, Latinas, band people, etc. defined groups. It was very cliche. Reflecting now, I was more a “misfit” since I wasn’t able to fit in with any of these groups.
I’m sure I was spoken about behind my back (almost impossible for this not to happen), but I either ignored the comments or didn’t really pay much attention. This became easier once I found a few friends to cling onto who also didn’t really have a specific group they fell into.
As far as work is concerned, I probably passed more judgment on myself in making sure I wore appropriate clothing to work (I was a special needs teacher). There was one time, when someone didn’t agree with something I was doing in the classroom (ignoring a child who was known for crying to gain attention), and this person decided to tell anyone and everyone that I let a child cry in my classroom. To be honest, I became frustrated and a bit angry since this person knew nothing about the classroom setup. But, when the team chairperson mimicked those words back to me, I was even more livid. Luckily, I had those higher up backing me up. However, it is kind of sad that this kind of behavior still happens, as an adult.
When teaching, I do try teach my students to be true to themselves. As long as no one is getting hurt (or being disruptive in the classroom 🙂 ), then expressing who they are is the best they can do for themselves.
What are your thoughts?
Has there ever been a time when you felt out of place or knew someone who talked behind your back? How did that feel? Were you able to find the light at the end of the tunnel?
Thank you for reading! 🙂